wotsitagain
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Trying not to moanHave already had a little moan on a thread here about my OH. I am trying hard not to give into the cathartic impulses of a full blown gripe. It is probably borne out of tiredness, frustration and pain (just knocked my offending wrist on outside tap, shortly after a very sharp pencil had stabbed me in the leg). A good moan can do wonders, but can also bore the pants off people and I can't be responsible for lots of PTRCers going commando!
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mug!
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wotsit, you moan away. x
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wicked witch
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You moan away, if we don't want to read it then we don't have to but I'm sure that some people will and give you moral support or sympathy.
I think moaning to someone is much better than not saying anything and things just building up inside you.
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rubbadubbas
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Go on have a good moan. If I voiced all the things I moan about to friends to my OH we'd be divorced by now 
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greyengine
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Sometimes it's better to have a good rant in a safe environment than to bottle things up. When you bottle things, they tend to explode out dramatically, and sometimes at the worst possible moment. So feel free to moan.
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choccat
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Moan away. Sometimes it's nice to know that other people don't have perfect lives either.
Take care x
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rubbadubbas
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| choccat wrote: | Sometimes it's nice to know that other people don't have perfect lives either.
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Excellent point!
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smallholder
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I agree, in fact I would go as far as to say that the expectation of and pursuit of perfection is a dangerous thing. Moan away wotsit - a problem moaned about and shared with friends doesn't seem half as bad somehow. Me and my best mate shared moans together for an hour on the phone today, then chatted about books, shopping, trips out that we could do when we felt a bit better etc. Did us both the power of good!
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magpie nic
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Moan away Wotsit, get it off your chest x
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redredrobin
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Everyone needs a good moan every so often. There's something really unnatural about people who are always cheerful.
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wotsitagain
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OK, I will. I have slept on it and still feel morally right. You can ignore me or whatever.
To cut a long moan short - it is the usual gripe about a woman working full-time and doing 100% of the housework and 100% of cooking. Actually I don't mind if it is not split 50:50, but would appreciate just a little acknowledgement of all that I do, and the offer to bring it down to 90:10 would be appreciated too.
It is the need to do the thinking for everyone else that I really struggle with. I have to keep track of all things for all the family, or so it seems. Tonight is a case in point. I asked if wotsit4 needed to be out earlier than usual. The response from OH was that he knew nothing about her going out. Well, she has been out every Friday since she was 10, now she is 14.  And before that her brothers would also be out at the same place. So for the last 10 years, someone has been going out on a Friday!!!! (Wotsit4 came in and supplied me with the details, so perhaps it is only the male members of our family who are so hopeless.)
Last night I was particularly frustrated. He was very late home, for which I have huge sympathy - his boss is a total **** (supply your own word). but calls me up and asks me to pick him up. Which I did. It was late to be cycling home. He comes out from the security office having obviously had a good laugh with them and then sinks into silent depression and morosity. After discussion, I tell him he needs to get it sorted - he has been to the doc a few times who told him to get a new job and said he would sign him off if he wants. OH has done nothing more. I have said I would go too but I think that worries him too. He is on medication for nocturnal epilepsy and I think that is a contributory factor. Anway we get home and I bash my wrist (painful now for 18 months and no one knows why) on the outside tap, which is on top of stabbing my leg with a pencil earlier. (I can't blame him for this, but it explains in part why I felt so peed off last night.)
Well, I have moaned on and on. Once I got into it, I could not stop!
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smallholder
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Just let it out wotsit!
((((((((((((wotsit))))))))))))))
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redredrobin
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That doesn't count as moaning on and on. I can understand why you are frustrated and needed to vent!
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kathemy
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Men It is frustrating when you feel that you are the only one doing anything. Fully sympathise with you and hope you manage to get on the outside of at least one glass of wine tonight (after you have finished ferrying everyone else round mind)
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choccat
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| wotsitagain wrote: |
To cut a long moan short - it is the usual gripe about a woman working full-time and doing 100% of the housework and 100% of cooking. Actually I don't mind if it is not split 50:50, but would appreciate just a little acknowledgement of all that I do, and the offer to bring it down to 90:10 would be appreciated too.
It is the need to do the thinking for everyone else that I really struggle with. I have to keep track of all things for all the family, or so it seems. |
Know exactly where you are coming from Wotsit. Only my OH is usually out drinking, wouldn't mind so much if he was working. I sometimes feel like I'm running a hotel here!
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